Mar 8, 2009 3:30 pm US/Eastern
Mind Your Manners: Etiquette For The Economy
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Whether you are doing the talking or the listening, a job loss can be an uncomfortable topic of conversation
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Bruce McCord knows talking about his job search isn't exactly stimulating conversation, but he's hoping someone might have a lead. "Some of my friends are in the industry, so I like to talk to them if they possibly have any contacts or know anything," he said.
With the unemployment rate skyrocketing, Bruce's situation is all too common. That can create some uncomfortable situations between friends. Whether you are doing the talking or the listening, a job loss can be an uncomfortable topic of conversation.
Peggy Post with the Emily Post Institute says the etiquette of the economy is creating a difficult dance for many. "The principles of etiquette are being considerate, being respectful and being honest," she said. "Those principles are more important than ever these days."
If you are out of work, before asking a friend for help, feel out the situation. Filter what you say about your layoff and make sure any anger is gone. If you have a friend who's looking, it's OK to acknowledge it and assist in any way you feel comfortable. "Maybe you could help that person with their resume or do some role paying with interviewing," said Post.
What if the issue is eating out? Not everyone can afford to split a big bill. Post suggests postponing the plans until your finances improve. "Sometimes we can even come up with an alternative. No, I can't really go to that expensive restaurant with you tonight, but how about going to the more moderate restaurant," she said.
Donating money for a gift or a fundraiser can be another tricky situation. "Be honest and say 'I just can't do it right now, but thanks for asking,'" she said.
Out-of-town weddings and graduations can also be out of the question. Post says RSVP and politely decline. She does say it's appropriate to send a small gift in your absence. "Many of these problems are old problems but we're seeing them more and more," Post explained.
Bruce says having supportive friends is crucial. "It's always important, but especially now," he said.
The Emily Post Institute has all of its rules of etiquette posted
online.
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